Your husband or partner does not have to stay involved the entire time. A great part of fun in the swinging lifestyle is watching your partner.
We have many club members that just love to watch their partner playing with other playmates.
Most clubs will work very hard to create a no pressure atmosphere and you will find most swing couples to be very open and understanding with new couples.
It is important that you play to your own comfort levels and go at the pace of the slowest partner

