We know how nerve wracking it can be going to a swingers club for the first time – we were new to the scene once upon a time.
Even if you’ve been to a club before, you can never be sure what awaits you at a new venue. For this reason, we’ve tried to answer the most common questions on this page. We also recommend that you check out the facilities, and take the tour to get a feel for the type of venue you’ll find when you get here.
If you have a question which is not answered here please get in touch via our Feed Back Page and we will reply as soon as possible!
If you would like to discuss any fears or nervousness please don’t hesitate to contact us.
Q: Is It Legal ?
A: Yes. When it is a Members Only club to which access is strictly restricted by Membership Card. No one is admitted to the club unless we have identification which proves their age and members of the general public are not permitted entry under any circumstances.
Q: What is the Dress Code ?
A: We don’t allow jeans, t-shirts, or trainers in the club and we ask that all members “Dress to Impress”. We’ll clarify that a little by saying that we expect gentlemen to be as smart as possible (trousers, smart shoes, and a shirt is fine) and ladies should dress as sexily as they feel comfortable with. Clubs have a reputation for smart sexiness and we’d like to maintain it; an evening in a swinger club is not a night out at the pub!
You should note that Fetish Night has it’s own dress code.
We would also like to ask you to cover up when coming to the club. If you do want to wear something that members of the public could find offensive please wear a long coat until you are in the building – we don’t want to upset anyone.!
Q: Do we have to strip off ?
A: Absolutely not. Clubs are about exercising your individual right to choose. It’s rare to see completely naked people in the lounge and a lot of people simply wear a towel. We do ask that you don’t go into the Play Rooms fully clothed but bra and panties is fine – as long as you are comfortable we are happy.
Q: Can I smoke on the premises ?
A: No, we are a no smoking club due to the present regulations but we do have a very good smoking area outside.
Q: Will others come onto us as soon as we walk through the door and will we be expected to have sex with others on the night?
A: NO and NO. This is perhaps the most commonly asked question and we’d like to assure you that it just doesn’t happen that way. The members of Clubs understand that a key component of our lifestyle is the ability and willingness not only to explore our own limitations but also to respect and cherish the limitations of others. Most couples sit and chat in the lounges and will go to play when the mood is right. Some couples like to be watched and won’t approach you, and some couples simply come to the club to socialise and make friends.
Q: Can We Say NO?
A: Absolutely. Again, our members recognise that in order for the experience to be worth anything it has to be by mutual consent. Our lifestyle choice is not about forcing ourselves on others but exploring TOGETHER. The word NO is important in clubs (to the point where it’s written into our Club Rules) and no-one will be offended if you say it. After all, we were all new once, we’ve all been nervous, and (quite frankly) we’ve all met people we simply don’t fancy. Using the word NO is important and our members will respect you more for using it than simply going along with something you are not comfortable with.
Whilst we are on the subject, when single guys are allowed into the club, the LADIES are in charge and have final say. Again, the guys understand this and will not take offence if a lady exercises her right to say NO.
Q: Does a club allow Single Guys to be members?
A: Yes. Although many clubs do not allow single guys to join, some have an open and equal membership policy.
Q: Do clubs allow Single Girls to be members?
A: Oh don’t be silly! Of course we do!
Q: We are a threesome – would we all be allowed in on Saturday night?
A: No – sorry. Although we recognise that there are couples out there who have a regular single partner, we cannot allow entry on a Couple Night as this would create an imbalance. You are, however, more than welcome to join us on every other Night. This does not apply to a couple with a single female.
Q: What’s the average age of club members?
A: It spans the whole range. On an average evening the majority are around their early to mid-thirties. Please note that people under the age of 18 will not be admitted under any circumstances.
Q: What sort of people join the club?
A: What sort of people shop at your local supermarket? It’s the same sort of question and just as difficult to answer! Our members come from all walks of life and include professional business people, manual workers, students, and the unemployed. Our members are rich, poor, fat, thin, southern, northern, black, white, yellow, and we’re sure that an alien will join us eventually! We and our’ members inclusive are, highly tolerant of others, and recognise that it isn’t what you are that is important; it’s who you are. As one of our members is fond of saying – “We’re all the same sat naked in the pool”.
Q: Do we need to bring a towel?
A: YES. Even if you aren’t planning on using any of the facilities in our wet areas, you’ll probably still want to have a shower before you leave. We do have towels available but it helps to bring your own.
Q: Do I have to give you my address?
A: Yes. We are a MEMBERS ONLY club and it is important that we can verify that you are who you say you are. We NEVER pass your details onto third parties and we operate a very strict privacy policy which you can read here. You will be required to produce identification on your first visit.
Q: Will you write to me at home?
A: We realise that many of the couples who come to the club and join as a couple may not be in a conventional relationship and that one or both of them may have regular partners or be married. We are completely non-judgemental and if this is how they choose to live then that is entirely up to them. We also realise that if we send printed information to a home address we run the risk of possibly causing some serious hurt.
When you join us we ask you on your application form if you want to receive mail from us – for example, copies of our newsletters and agendas. If you say no then we will NEVER send ANYTHING to your home address – full stop – ever. We have a series of safeguards in place to make sure that this aspect of our operations is carefully controlled.
You can also ask us to hold your email address on file – we are planning to send information by email in the future to those members who prefer it. Ask at Reception for more information.
Q: We are travelling a long way. Where can we stay?
A: Although we does not recommend specific local hotels there are a few ones around.
Q: How do we start?
A: Go up to someone and say Hello – it works for us!
Q: Are condoms available? Are they free?
A: Yes they are available and they are free.
